It Makes no difference.

The worst feeling in life is realizing how impossible your dreams and goals might be and really submitting to that. 
I have never felt in my life.. wanting to just call it quits this bad. 

Yesterday, not sure what i was doing anymore.. 

I saw the future.. and it scared me shittless. I couldn’t handle it anymore.. and I really thought that death would be the most reasonable way out should the time come.. 

I told myself to just give up on all my dreams and appreciate what i have now. I didn’t want to regret anymore. neither could i accomplish anything on my own . anymore. 

Did I bounce back from this experience? 

No, reality is reality. You can’t change that. It’s either I accept reality and move forward or fight against it. But it’s not a reality i can accept .. to fight i feel futile. To not fight, i feel temporary.. burden lifted off my shoulders. but i am only risking the future.. the only hope is really to fight.. or to accept things as they are. either way is painful. 

 

 

Why we struggle?

I know why we continue to struggle even though we could enjoy the present moment and take things as they are. The reason is because the present moment is hell. 

We struggle so that we can make the future better, so we can take a chance at changing things for the better, that’s why we fight. We don’t struggle so that we can make our own life more miserable than it needs to be.

We struggle so that things could be different, could be better. 

 

Destiny

Im definitely not a quitter, but I have certainly reached a road block again. 

Let’s say every instance of now does not lead to the desired outcome, because luck and fate play a larger role. 

Everything you do now is destined. You can’t change your fate nor your outcome. Everything you do now is hopeless. 

 

Then shouldn’t it only be reasonable that we enjoy now as much as possible instead of struggling? 

We only have the time now to enjoy the life that’s given to us why struggle and make yourself suffer when the ending is the same? 

 

 

12 Types of Cognitive Distortions

Mind Reading – When you make assumptions about what somebody is thinking or feeling without them telling you. In reality, you are delusional or paranoid.

Catastrophize – when you over think a problem and the effects that they will actually have on you. For example, when you think that losing a relationship means the end of your life when really you can find someone new the next day or down the line. 

Filtering – when you only pay attention to one side of things. For example, you only remember the bad times you had in school and not the good ones. 

Polarized thinking – when you think of things as either black or white or good or bad. For example, there can only be good or bad people or success or fails.

Personalization – when you take everything too personally. For example, when you think that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. 

Blaming – when you hold other people accountable for your problems. For example, you blame someone else  for causing you to make a bad decision. In actuality, you were the one who made the wrong call based on your own judgement. 

Being Right – You feel the need to prove that your opinions or actions are correct. For example, you neglect other people’s perspective in an argument. 

Should’s – when you place sets of rules on yourself. For example, you think that you should go out whenever your friend asks you to. 

Emotional Reading – When you use your emotions to make a decision or judgement. For example, you buy into a product because of how good it was marketed when really the product is not that good.

Fallacy of Change – when you think others should change for you and that your happiness depends on them changing. For example, you expect that person to stop being a jerk because you are being nice to them. 

Heaven’s Reward Fallacy – when you expect that all your sacrifices or hard work to pay off. For example, you think that if you work hard enough, you should get a reward.

Overgeneralization – when you carry a problem over to otherdomains. When you fail a math test, you think that you are not good with anything to do with numbers

Table of Content

Introduction and myself and why this was created. talk about how you didn’t do well the first year and  how you begin successful.

Here’s an outline of the tips.

1. tips to go from a failure to success and enter your dream program

2. What do you usually do in psychology and what to expect.

what do you learn in psychology

what skills do you obtain

what is psychology

what job is available for psychologists.

How to successfully ace the psychology major.

1. Important Habits to have and work on

2. Tips to Improve Your Memory

3. How to deal with exam stress or anxiety

4. tips to help you focused when running out of time to study

4. How to approach psychology courses

5. tips to help you be focus

6. tips to keep you motivated

8. tips for breaking procrastination

7. tips to keep you going forward after being discouraged

6. What to do the day before the exam; tips that will make a difference

7. Systematic studying tips

8. tips for students entering college/university for the first time and what to expect

lastly,

various insights of my personal experiences as a psych student.